Ignorance & Immaturity Sets Us UP for Narcissists' & Psychopaths' Power Plays: Why We Fall for Coercion and Lies that Destroy Us, Devastate Us, or Keep Us Small and & How to Live Free & Big

Immature adults were raised in enmeshed, toxic, or narcissistic families in which they are controlled, which makes them prone to controlling people, groups, cults, politicians, news media & authority.

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Maturity vs Immaturity

Do you wonder why people fall for the lies of toxic people? Why do they fall for the lies of the media puppets, billionaires, organizations, or celebrity influencers - when to you, these are clearly propaganda, coercion, manipulation, and lies? To you, it’s obvious these people are just trying to sell you something.

Sometimes the answer is just pure ignorance. Sometimes it’s immaturity. I’ve fallen for a lot of stupid propaganda and lies because I did not understand toxic people or organizations and was incredibly naive as a consumer and as a person in relationships.

However, some things “set me up” early in life to fall for liars and manipulators.

• Immature adults were raised in enmeshed, toxic, or narcissistic families in which they are controlled, emotionally abused, perhaps physically and sexually abused as well, all of which makes them prone to controlling people, groups, cults, politicians, news media & authority.

• Immature adults who raise immature adults are stuck in a generational cycle or generational curse, and may be completely unaware of how toxic they are, how naive they are, or why or how they need to change.

• Older generations did not have access to the internet - it didn’t exist, which means they may not have had have access to very much information. It depended on who was around and what those people knew and what books they had access to and read. Like the quote, “before google, if you didn’t know something, you just kept on not knowing it!”

• That’s why this isn’t a “blame the older generation or blame the parents” kind of situation. Most did the best they could with what they had to go on. Some did horribly. Maybe they did alot better than their parents and the generations before them even if it was bad.

• Counseling was seen as “something only those without friends” and “crazy” people needed to a lot of people in the older generations. So counseling was seen as a humiliating or embarrassing need instead of helpful.

Hierarchy of Needs

Times have changed, but people have not. People have the same hierarchy of needs and reactions in their behaviors, brains, emotions, and bodies depending on their environment, whether toxic or healthy.

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Pyramid

Being in toxic environments and relationships can cause mental health and physical health disorders and being raised in a toxic family can cause personality disorders and narcissism. (Severe psychopathology is a brain problem.)

Some families or parents believe if they meet physiological needs of the child/ren then that is good parenting. That’s all they know.

We’re living in an era right now, where it’s fairly common knowledge that children need more than the basics and good parents and teachers are trying to help kids have a good self-esteem and confidence in their abilities. There are differing schools of thought on how to achieve this best. Some set up independent thinkers and some make people dependent upon authority - setting them up to be controlled.

Life coaching is one of the fastest growing industries because people are becoming aware that just healing from past wounds and traumas, like in therapy, is not the end goal.

Healing and becoming mentally, physically, and emotionally healthy is the foundation, the baseline, to achieving the end goal of self-actualization which is finding purpose, meaning, fulfillment, and overcoming obstacles that keep us ineffective or struggling with confidence or pride.

People who are set up to be controlled believe that obeying and following authority is maturity and will somehow lead to self-actualization.

Since people tend to attract and are comfortable with others on the same level of maturity as they are, unhealthy people group together and healthy people group together. Some people fight this idea because they have been in a relationship with a narcissist but are not one.

However, what many people do not understand is that if a person hasn’t healed from an emotionally immature or neglectful upbringing, they operate emotionally in an immature way as well, may be naive, and tend to be attracted unconsciously to people who are toxic and immature and narcissistic even though it’s not obvious at first. They were set up in childhood to tolerate abuse believing that is love. They do not have appropriate boundaries.

Unfortunately, many churches set people up to tolerate abuse instead of confront it and declare it a sin - a sin they should not tolerate. A disrespectful husband or wife is not just upsetting, it’s a sin. Pretending that a husband or wife is disrespectful because they are reacting poorly to emotional and verbal abuse is also a sin.

Abusing someone emotionally, verbally, physically, financially, or socially and then pretending their reaction to the abuse is the problem is a favorite tactic of immature, toxic, and narcissistic people. Calling their target “disrespectful”, “ungrateful”, “sinful”, “unloving”, “uncaring”, “inconsiderate”, “unkind” or presenting that person to others as such is a go-to tactic that works to get others to abuse their target as well.

“People who don’t get vaccinated are garbage!” said our President! Why? Because in his immaturity and toxicity, he led Americans to believe they were being uncaring, unkind, inconsiderate, unloving, and abusive. The media, in their ignorance and toxicity, then enabled this kind of toxic behavior and told their viewers to think like that about their family and friends as well.

“I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them. For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naive.” Romans 16:16-18

Of course now everyone knows that the vaccine did not stop transmission and this was just a tactic to sell a product. You know who knew that right away? The vaccine manufacturers. If you went to their websites, which I did, because I know they are liable for lies they tell, those stated that they did not know whether or not the vaccine stopped transmission nor did they know if it would stop anyone from getting the virus. The wording was that it may lessen symptoms of covid. Not will lessen symptoms. May. Not stop transmission. They don’t know.

This was available knowlege for anyone to get on their websites and see. But people did not. They believed the media. Who acted either maliciously or ignorantly and believed a President who acted either maliciosuly or ignorantly. They believed their doctors, scientists, researchers, pastors, CDC, NIH, Fauci, Bill Gates, and all who spread the false information and acted either maliciously or ignorantly. Someone knows. I don’t know who was ignorant and who was purposely decieving others.

But their message worked. It worked because trying to control others is much easier when you have enablers who will abuse the target(s) as well and stand up for the abuser.

People who are actually kind, caring, loving, and considerate might feel guilty and ashamed if they believe all these people think they are awful people and so perhaps then the target complies to keep the peace.

But this means the target is complying to the immature, narcissistic abuser, and his allies or enablers.

This same scenario sometimes happens in some churches when a person wants to leave an emotionally or verbally or physically abusive marriage.

Leaders tell the target, the abused, they are a sinner if they leave and they must work harder to get the abuse to stop or at least stay and endure the abuse.

This is a gleefully joyous day for the abuser - because now they have good enablers or allies to abuse their target as well.

The abusive person has no intention of changing but is happy for the target to try harder and to be a better victim who stops complaining about the abuse to people.

Mature people are emotionally healthy people who have very strong boundaries for themselves about how they will treat others and how they will be treated.

Healthy people leave relationships and distance themselves from toxic people who do not operate within the same boundaries that they do.

Healthy people will apologize when they cross their own boundary about how they treat others and take responsibility for changing and healing so they do not hurt that person again.

Healthy people do not put up with chronic disrespect and unkindness from others nor do they act disrespectfully and unkind to others. They treat others as they want to be treated.

Healthy people do not change their boundaries depending on what the immature person or group’s relationship is to them. They will not tolerate abuse from family, spouse, friends, the President, media, enablers or allies of toxic people, employers, co-workers, boss, church, cults, government, doctors, mental health counselors or anyone else.

Abuse is abuse. Immaturity is immaturity. Toxic is toxic. Narcissistic is narcissistic.

Differing opinions is not abuse. Differing perspectives is not abuse. Making different choices than other people make is not abuse.

But name-calling, tearing others down, trying to control, coerce, manipulate, or force someone to comply to demands that they are not comfortable with for their own body and life and relationships, for profit and for the “greater good” of the abuser, is abuse.

No one gets a free pass to abuse someone else. They do not get to side with abusers and become enablers or allies and be called heroes.

Abuse is not heroic. Standing against abusers and enablers of the abusers is heroic.

Hats off to the doctors, the scientists, the researchers, the people who did not abuse and instead stood up to the abuse on behalf of themselves and others, and to those who take accountability and apoligize and change for being abusive and enabling abuse.

"Treat others the same way you want them to treat you. If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them.” Luke 6:31-32

Self-Actualization

Self-actualization is easily possible for healthy people in healthy relationships.

Self-actualization is not possible in immature or narcissistic relationships. Those people will tear you down and wear you down.

An immature or emotionally immature and naive person will attract and be vulnerable to narcissistic, toxic, and immature people because they lack good boundaries and will tolerate a certain level of abuse until they heal.

Immaturity does not mean someone is a narcissist. A narcissist is further up the scale of immaturity. If someone was raised by toxic, immature, or narcissistic people, and has not healed and learned better ways to interact with others, then that person will still be emotionally immature.

Experts warn about picking up “fleas” or bad habits or covert or overt aggressive behaviors from these families of origin and the need to get rid of the fleas and learn to replace them with healthy behaviors.

Maturity is not possible without learning healthy behaviors and interactions and immature people attract immature friends and partners. Some of these people may be much higher on the scale of toxicity - narcissistic or even psychopathic.

Covert Aggressive Immature Behaviors

Covert aggressive behaviors, “fleas”, can include not communicating needs or wants or boundaries with others and instead becoming resentful, passive-aggressive, slandering, gossiping, silent treatment, ghosting, or resorting to mind games or power plays with that person.

A power play may mean they withhold affection, information, attention, help, or serving the person until they “behave” correctly.

They may pretend that everything is fine but cancel plans to hurt the person or do some chore or favor so ineffectively that it isn’t helpful or a favor at all.

Even though nothing was communicated in a healthy, productive manner, they expect the person to figure out what they did wrong and correct it.

All of those are immature behaviors.

Mature and healthy people communicate boundaries openly and respect the boundaries of others.

They say yes when they mean yes and no when they mean no. They accept other people’s yes and no.

They do not guilt, shame, coerce, manipulate or force a yes or no. We can all be disappointed but we can all get over it. Other people are not here for our benefit. Their worth and value does not depend on what we decide they should or should not do.

With that said, if someone crosses your boundaries, will not accept your no, and their behavior toward you is unacceptable even after you attempt healthy and mature communication, healthy people distance themselves from that person. That is a person that cannot have a reciprocal relationship and will not be good for either person.

Enabling someone’s bad behavior is not helpful to them because they will not learn they even need to change how they interact with others.

Putting up with or enabling bad behavior from people in relationship with you will only dim your light and your effectiveness in this world.

It’s not nice or kind, it’s unhelpful at best and at worst will destroy your self-esteem, your mental, emotional, and physical health, and your other relationships that are important to you.

Immature people like to triangulate people and naive and immature people tend to believe those close to you are right about you - at least for a time unless they see the true nature of that person themselves (which may take years or not at all).

Best to drop the covert or over aggressive people from your inner circle at least. People do not readily believe someone who isn’t close to you.

Psychopaths

The spectrum of toxicity exists from immature and toxic to narcissists and psychopaths. The range is wide and varies about the limits or boundaries a person will operate within and what tactics they will use.

Some people are psychopathic, sadistic, and manipulators whose brains are fundamentally different than the rest of us.

These people have no remorse, like to hurt people, and enjoy “playing” head games with people. The most severe psychopaths are estimated to be about 1% of the population, but people with psychopathic tendencies are about 30% of the population.

“Psychopathy is more common than most people realize,” according to Dr. Abigail March, PhD. “People with psychopathic traits show less empathy and remorse than other people. They may lie, cheat, and steal, but they may also be friendly, smart, and basically unremarkable. In other words, impossible to pick out of a crowd. Although severe psychopathy affects just about 1% of people, some research suggests that close to 30% of us have some level of psychopathic traits”. Speaking of Psychology: Why psychopathy is more common than you think, with Abigail Marsh, PhD

That’s to say, that some people, perhaps as high as 30% of people, are not doing the best they can parenting and enjoy hurting their children and other people to feel powerful and in control.

The further up the scale of toxicity one goes, the less limits and boundaries an immature and toxic person has on themselves. They may seek to destroy or toy with another person for revenge, for fun, or for power and control.

Serial killers like the power killing others provides to their ego. They feel that is the ultimate control over someone. Yes, it’s evil. And they don’t care.

Their brains are different and they have no empathy or remorse - though they can act like they do and have the ability to charm and manipulate others into believing they are caring, hurting, loving, in pain, and just want to be understood.

It’s fun for them to get people to feel sorry for them or try to understand them or just to play with their emotions in general.

In reality, as far as they are concerned, others are there for their benefit. But they are entertained with people trying to figure them out.

This is why I’m annoyed with the documentaries and the focus on serial killers and psychopaths. We aren’t going to “understand” them. When they are being interviewed, they are playing with the interviewers and anyone within their sphere of influence.

Whether in the world or in jail, narcissists and psychopaths may take on different roles, depending on what benefits them or what is entertaining to them. Some play the spouse or parent role and torture others instead.

For some people they may play the “mentor”, the “coach”, the “doctor”, the “CEO”, the “philanthropist” which may be in the actual field or sometimes they just make it up.

Cult leaders just make up their role.

But narcissists and psychopaths may also be real doctors, CEOs, psychologists, scientists, philanthropists, or anything.

They do usually like to see what they can get others to do for them in any role.

They like admiration and praise and also like others to submit to their authority.

They also like when people are intimidated and afraid of them. Sexual predators like the humiliation games and for their victims to fear them.

They like to switch roles between aggressor and savior to some people. This creates a trauma bond and keeps their target trying to get the narcissist to treat them well again - which is a powerful motivator for the narcissist to continue switching it up.

Knowing this, you can know why it’s a bad idea to try to “get” people to like you or treat you well.

They know what you’re doing and it either annoys them or you become someone they can play with. They can act like they like you for a bit, then become nasty to you just to see you hurt by them. This makes them feel powerful. You do not want these kind of people in your circle or your life.

Healthy people don’t play games with you and aren’t nasty to you sometimes and nice to you other times. That’s different from having a bad moment and apologizing and then working to be better.

But this should never be a pattern in a relationship or something that continues to happen. A person who does this has no intention on being in a healthy relationship with you - whether that’s a friend, family member, co-worker, boss, employee, or spouse.

Narcissists, toxic and immature people, and psychopaths have a God-complex. How much power and control they want is on a spectrum. Some just want control and power over their children and/or spouse or a friend or family member and others want to control everyone they can get power over.

The God-Complex

Satan wants to be God and wants ultimate power and control. Satan is the ultimate narcissist and psychopath. He is the ultimate image of selfishness and immaturity. Satan wants to destroy all that is of God and all that is of love because God is love.

But he wants to do it in sneaky ways - faking maturity, faking love, faking caring. Remember how he tricked Eve? To get her to eat the forbidden fruit and go against God, he pretended God didn’t have her best interests in mind and was holding back good things from her. But Satan did this to destroy her - not to help her. But he pretended that he did have her best interests at heart and was trying to help her gain knowledge of good and evil to be like God.

Isn’t this exactly the kind of thinking and behaving we see still today when the news media is lying to us? When Fauci lied to us? When the CIA lies to us or any organization or person lies to us?

They just “care” about humanity and want the best for us all. Isn’t that what the billionaires are saying? And the toxic people who put laws in place to do things that justify their control and power?

They just want to give us vaccines because they “care” about our health; they just want to put fluoride (a known neurotoxin) in the water because they care about our teeth; they just want to use AI to help make our world easier and better for us; they just want global digitization and a cashless society to help ease our daily lives - not to monitor all spending and be able to cut us off from our money if we post things they don’t like, say things they don’t like, do things they don’t like - like trying to live in personal freedom. No…they don’t want control. They want you to be “safe”. They have our best interest at heart…

Some elites are for censoring Mal-information - which is information that is true but inconvenient.

Some elites are trying to discover how to convict “pre-crime” to keep us safe. Did you ever see the movie Minority Report with Tom Cruise? You should. Pre-crime is an awful idea.

You know why mental health therapists and psychologists cannot be sued for patients committing suicide or violent crimes? Because it has been determined that there is no way to know - no test - no red flag - no way to determine who will commit suicide or who will commit violent crimes.

Some people might say it and never do it. Some people never say it and then do it. If we could know, we would be liable. But we can’t so were not.

Control is often presented as keeping us “safe”.

Doesn’t Everyone Want to be Mature?

Jesus told us to grow in maturity in Christ. So, our mission is clearly to keep growing in maturity and acting and speaking better - on a level that creates connection, accepts differences, but holds truth, where they are free and we are free - which only comes from a heart, mind, and spirit that has done the work to have a foundation of unconditional love and freedom found in Christ.

Immaturity does not offer freedom and speaks and behaves out of control and power and believes itself to be superior over others - “better than” while others are “less than”.

To believe God, we all hold equal value and worth, bought at the same price - because we are equally valuable and worthy.

That idea doesn’t translate to some people getting to be super rich and control others and have power - which doesn’t “help” the foundation of shame and insecurity those kind of people feel because of unhealed trauma and wounds in childhood. They would need to heal - or they need to bring down others to feel powerful.

So, no. Every one does not want to be mature. Some people relish the feelings of power, control, and superiority they get while acting, speaking, and treating others as “below” them, less worthy and valuable, and not as ethical or moral or right and wholesome.

However, these people are delusional. The fantasy of superiority is just a fantasy that holds no place in reality. That’s why the world that chronically toxic or narcissistic and immature adults want to create doesn’t make any sense. Making sense and living in reality does not work with this kind of immature and delusional thinking.

The problem is that faking maturity is easy. Chronically immature and toxic or narcissistic people do love to pretend to be mature. Every one knows we are supposed to be mature and no adult want the label of immature.

They come up with all kinds of excuses about why their behavior is warranted for ethical and moral reasons and out of love and care so others are convinced they are not controlling or power-hungry.

But these kind of people do not care about actually being mature - just acting mature so others will buy into their nonsense. And it works!!!

Faking maturity works really well. Others faking maturity buy into it because that’s how they think and believe too and those who are trying to grow in maturity buy into it because it sounds good. Read more: The Adult Temper Tantrum: Emotional Abuse But Playing the “Mature Card” in Organizations OR Relationships

“Yes, I want to be loving, ethical, and moral and care about others too - so I will go along with this line of thinking and behaving - it only seems controlling but it’s actually loving…” No. What seems controlling is controlling. Love offers freedom. Maturity offers freedom.

We have to learn the difference between who is growing in maturity (in love and freedom) and who is faking it and acting mature. The difference in what kind of policies, laws, and rules these groups put in place is HUGE.

Maturity offers freedom because those growing in maturity are free. Immaturity wants control and power over others because immature people or those faking maturity are under the control and power of someone else or some other group.

Immature adults were raised in enmeshed, toxic, or narcissistic families in which they are controlled, which makes them prone to controlling people, groups, cults, politicians, news media, experts, and any person or group they believe is in “authority”.

Deadly Propaganda

The propaganda of our time is potentially disabling, deadly, and can cause financial ruin as well as destroy families, relationships, and divide communities.

The health propaganda is insane and I fell for it too and am paying the price. SIDE EFFECTS of Pharmaceuticals or Vaccines: Death is NOT the Worst Thing that Can Happen to You.

Why do we believe there are billionaires and billionaire corporations who want us to have healthy teeth (fluoride is known in good science to weaken our teeth and poison our body slowly for some people, faster for others like me), healthy immune systems (vaccines that good science shows destroys our immune systems), and plenty of food with the right pesticides (pesticides poison our food therefore bodies but good science and farmers show how it’s not needed and produces more without all the poisons and soil can be healed and nutrient dense if done right without poison).

This information used to be unknown to many people but now that RFK Jr is confirmed and acting as the new Health and Human Services secretary, all of these “conspiracy theories” are coming to light from the real farmers and real science.

The pharmaceutical companies, Monsanto (big pesticide companies), the industries that sell their fluorosilicic acid to dump in our water, which is the waste product from aluminum factories, who used to have to pay to get rid of the waste, which they named fluoride - I guess so people wouldn’t freak out and understand what they were showering in or drinking, will now all be brought to light. What a great reckoning to come.

Fluorosilicic acid (FSA) is a corrosive, fuming, inorganic acid that's used in water fluoridation, metal treatment, and other industrial processes. Properties: A colorless to pale yellow liquid with a sharp odor, Corrosive to metals and tissue, Can cause severe burns, and Can etch glass. (AI answer)

For more info on fluoride read my article: HOW AND WHY TO DETOX FLUORIDE Out of Your Body and Tap Water! Fluoride Trial is Over: Evidence Proves Fluoride is Toxic to the Brain.)

Maturity not Perfection

None of us are perfectly mature and we all fluctuate on our maturity level depending on illness, annoyances, triggers, & inconsideration. However, none of us are required to be “nice” in the face of disrespect and unkindness.

Maturity is growing in love and freedom. The goal of maturity is love. Love always offers freedom. That’s why Jesus set us free. We are free to decide what we believe, how we act, how we speak, how we treat others, and if we will accept Jesus as our savior or not. We, of course, are never free from the consequences of our decisions, but we are free to decide. Love of God, love of self, and love of others sets our spirit free.

Immaturity desires a childlike power and control (I want what I want regardless of how it affects others) and stays or regresses into fear. Immaturity leads to wanting to be or feel superior over others - to be on top. Love is not the goal of immaturity. The goal of immaturity is to be in control and power over self and others and to be its own god. Immaturity imprisons our spirit and others.

Those who come from an enmeshed family system or a toxic or narcissistic family system are in an immature environment and learn that to be safe, they need control and power or to submit to power and control without question.

They learn that the authority has power over them and to do as they are told or they will be hurt, abandoned (emotionally or physically or both), or be shamed, humiliated, and embarrassed.

Being your own person is not an option. Love means obeying and being controlled or controlling and being obeyed. The spirit of self and others feels imprisoned because of the self-centeredness of the family system.

There are families who are close; who are securely connected and all are free to live their own lives and have their own views and opinions and beliefs and traditions, feeling freedom within their spirit and their family and the unconditional love from that kind of foundation. The healthy family system is mature and maturity offers freedom.

Then there are families who are enmeshed. They may look close but they are insecurely connected, expected to follow certain family norms and ways of being, believing, living, and people are only accepted if they conform to the family rules. Being your own person is not accepted. Believing differently is not accepted. Perhaps only certain jobs or career paths are acceptable. Toxic family systems are immature and immaturity seeks control and power.

Adults who come from chronically immature families, either follow the same pattern of immaturity and end up in immature relationships and organizations or buck the family system and decide to grow in maturity - becoming the problem in the family, the scapegoat (if they weren’t already), but also have the best chance for true love, healthy connection and relationships, and freedom.

Those living in freedom seek to set others free and stay free themselves. They will be the ones to go against forced agendas, coercion, manipulation, and control from organizations, government, political systems, and toxic authorities.

Those living under oppression or oppressing, seek to get others to comply and they will comply themselves - even against their best interest. This is what they are used to doing.

Small Stuff or Big Stuff

Jesus stood for and against so many things the important people in authority hated. Jesus did so many things that the religious people hated and then wouldn’t do the things they wanted him to do.

Those in authority hated him enough to kill him for saying things they didn’t like and doing things they didn’t like.

He did them and said them anyway.

Jesus lived a BIG life and did big things because he was completely mentally and spiritually free. He could have stayed small. Just a carpenter who goes along with authority. Who did what was expected of him. Who listened to what the religious people told him to do. Who listened to what the government told him to do.

He could have been just a “good” man. But of course, he was fully God too so he is perfect while we are not.

But Jesus called us to do greater works than he did. When Jesus was here, the helper or the Holy Spirit, was with him but could not be within us all until he went to heaven.

With the power of the Holy Spirit, there isn’t just a few people who can be free and live big lives, everyone who invites Jesus to be their Lord and Savior has the Holy Spirit and can be mentally and spiritually free.

That’s how we do greater works - not because we can raise people from the dead - maybe someone can! But because there can be millions or billions of us doing the works God has called us to.

Big stuff in heaven doesn’t always equal big here. Some of us are doing exactly what God is telling us to do - and it’s “small stuff” in this life. But storing up treasure in heaven is doing what we are called to do. The treasure for our small stuff is big stuff in heaven.

“Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Matthew 6:19-21

We have unconditional love in God, eternal life in Christ, and are free to do good works. We don’t have to be controlled by the toxic people. We have a greater authority to follow. Our authority is loving and mature and keeps us safe for real - not just a fantasy or delusion. Our eternal soul is safe. Even though our body dies.

We are not promised that our physical body will be free in this life. We are told we will suffer.

Suffering doesn’t always mean you’re doing the wrong thing or on the wrong side. Sometimes it means you’re doing what Jesus did which is suffering for the truth and the cause or the situation that God is calling you into.

Let’s not be mentally controlled by narcissistic or toxic or immature people. Each of us can heal so we can be free to do whatever God has put in our hearts and minds for his kingdom in His character.

That’s what the verse means about asking anything in Jesus’ name and he will do it. Those words, in Jesus’ name, in the original language, means in the character of Jesus.

“Truly, truly, I say to you, whoever believes in me will also do the works that I do; and greater works than these will he do, because I am going to the Father.” John 14:12

“Whatever you ask in my name, this I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask me anything in my name, I will do it.” John 14:13-14

Counseling and Coaching Resources

My Counselor online - virtual Christian counseling

BetterHelp - virtual counseling

Hailey Magee - virtual coaching for those wanting to overcome the effects narcissism, people-pleasing, learn to set boundaries, and advocate for self

Dr. Les Carter - online courses to heal from narcissism and more information and resources.

Leslie Vernick - virtual coaching, resources, and online community for Christian women who are in or have been in narcissistic or toxic marriages or relationships (they do not judge for those staying or for those leaving - leaving a narcissist is often necessary for mental/emotional, physical, and spiritual health and healing).

Freedom Fighters - virtual prayer group - Holy Spirit led healing and deliverance for those who believe in Jesus. This is very powerful and effective for many people.

Self Help Book

Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend: I recommend this book Boundaries for anyone who struggles with people pleasing or saying no when you want to or standing up for yourself.